How to make the leap from surviving to thriving
“My mission in life is not merely to survive, but to thrive; and to do so with some passion, some compassion, some humour, and some style”
Such powerful words, as always, from Maya Angelou. Do they resonate with you too?
This time of year is great for reflecting on your progress and setting some intentions for the year ahead. That doesn’t mean setting unrealistic resolutions because everyone else keeps talking about what they’ll be giving up for January though. Yes, Dry January etc is approaching, but you don’t need to take out an expensive gym membership or set goals that leave you feeling restricted and unfulfilled simply because it’s “the done thing” – in honesty, it’s been done to death and it doesn’t work – why not try something new? I recommend musing on the difference between what your life looks like when you are surviving, and when you are thriving: which life would you rather experience?
When it started to dawn on me last year that I was in a surviving, rather than a thriving, mindset: going through the motions with my physiotherapy exercises, continuing to fit my randomly-shaped-peg self into a round hole at my 9-5 job and accepting a general feeling of lacklustre-ness, I took some time to think things through. If this resonates with you in some way, maybe taking some time to reflect on the following questions will help you:
What do I have the power to change here?
What do I want my life to look like?
How do I want to FEEL?
For me, I knew I was in the position to do my physio exercises, I simply felt uninspired by them, which meant that my progress in healing my ankle injury was slow and I was unable to return to running which had been an essential outlet for me. So instead of continuing to feel, frankly, a bit sorry for myself I resolved to try a new form of movement to get me excited and back outdoors again: turns out cycling through muddy puddles is just as much fun as running through them! And when it came to that 9-5 job that no longer inspired me and instead drained my energy, I found that I was lucky enough to have the support of a financially stable partner meaning I could leave my 9-5 job and explore my true passions. And in realising my own power to effect changes in my life, I started to shine a little brighter again.
That vision of what I wanted my life to look like? It looks a lot like how I’ve been living during 2017: lots of time spent outdoors, colourful foods, lots of chocolate, spending time sharing stories and learnings with other wonderful beings, adventures and learning. I’ve shared my vision for 2018 on this Pinterest board – feel free to check it out if you’re after some inspiration.
But the most important thing, I think, was evaluating and keeping front of mind during the year how I wanted to feel – and ensuring that my actions, things I said yes to and self care aligned with those feelings. Words that came up for me:
Freedom Wisdom Abundance
Quiet Serenity Presence
Wildness Growth Thoughtful
Joy Smile Fulfilled
What words come up for you if you take time to reflect on how you’d like to feel, instead of thinking about arbitrary goals such as dress size or calorie limits?
If you’d benefit from support in identifying and working towards your intentions for 2018, why not book in with me for a FREE 15 minute taster session as part of my Happy, Healthy, Nourished programme? I can’t wait to hear from you!